Where did 2011 go??? It seemed to go by in a flicker & again like 2010, it was a good one--more laughter less tears & all that stuff. And it reconfirms my opinion about Karma.
Yesterday, Xing Fu & I took his kids to the American Visionary Arts Museum--awesome museum if you haven't gone. http://www.avam.org/
One of the exhibits was about all things round--which includes karma. Which got me thinking--I used to write quite a bit about karma & ridding myself of my history of negative karma especially with men. I have always been very conscious of my past decisions & all the time I was dating the 50 firsts I always wondered when that karmic wheel would turn in my favor. And now, on the precipice of our second year together, I can say that good karma is following me & Xing Fu as we plan our very important next step together. It is at the end of another good year, that I remind myself to give thanks to the universe for all the positive karma that has continued to flow in my direction. It has been a very good year full of great friends, family, & historic moments out on the bay & I'm looking forward to the next chapter in 2012.
I hope everyone has a very happy & safe New Year! See you in 2012!
So this time last year I wrote about trending break up days--apparently December 3rd-6th are big ones for those non-committers out there. You know who you are--too cheap to buy a present which reads "LTR" all over it, too shallow too handle the parties where you have to introduce this person as your "girlfriend" or "boyfriend". Yup, been there, done that. So hurry up--if it's gonna happen, now's the week to do it!
I read a little meme on on MSN-glo about the relationship trends of 2011 by Natasha Burton. See here:
http://glo.msn.com/relationships/relationship-trends-from-2011-7643.gallery
In particular I was reading that the trend for marriages is way down for the first time in America. People are either waiting longer to wed or just deciding that marriage just isn't in the cards for them. According to the glo article: "...the formality of marriage appears to be taking a backseat to simply creating a happy, stable relationship." Interesting for me to read as a lot of people ask me whether or not Xing Fu & I will tie that knot. Well, I think both of us would say, "Been there, done that" & that we follow the trend of "creating that happy, stable relationship."
Further findings have been the effects of fatherhood. In fact scientists have found this year how much becoming a father does change the man. Funny, when my ex & I had my kid, I really didn't see too much change--he was just as irresponsible as he was before kid. One of the qualities that draws me to Xing Fu is his responsibility to his children & just how great a father he is.
The other interesting "trends" are lower divorce rates but increased use of cheating sites like AshleyMadison--so because of the economic downturn more folk are staying together but then more folk are looking for satisfaction outside of their marriages to compensate for their lack of marital bliss. I get it, in fact one of my old "beaus" has in fact decided that he can't afford to divorce & he & his wife are co-habitating. And perhaps all of these unhappily marrieds are sexting their hook-ups--yes, another trend that has seen an uptick.
As 2011 moves into the history books remember the last trend: that if you missed getting married on 11-11-11, you can become the new trend for 12-12-12.
