A bit of a follow-up post from the quirky kissing one from a bit ago. I read an interesting article in Redbook the other day that got me thinking--yeah, bad sign. It was entitled The Kissing Project and pointed out some interesting facts. One that struck me the most was that kissing & hand-holding are usually the first to go in a LTR. How depressing! And upon reflection I do realize that kissing does dwindle--at least it did with my ex-husband--mebbe a smooch in the morning--mebbe days without a peck at all. Most likely had to do with the fact that I didn't like him too much and the thought of swapping spit at that point disgusted me...
The article points out also how men & women respond to kissing--men to spread testosterone & for both generating the feel-good hormones of oxytocin & endorphins--oxytocin is that infamous "bonding" hormone. So isn't it interesting that when a couple is "bonded" they actually stop hormonal bonding when they stop kissing. Couples seeking therapy are sometimes counseled to kiss more--apparently the research indicates that it can help. And so the article lists a few experiments. I looked at each one & compared to what Xing Fu & I do.
First & foremost--we are pretty touchy-feely anyway and have no problem smooching a lot. But the one "experiment" that stuck out was actually one that I had absolutely no need to even consider (the other ones, yeah, could be interesting), but this one suggested making over his kissing style. The problem I have with that is if you are reading this as a married couple or even in a LTR, it would totally suck if you've been dealing with a bad kisser for this long & it hadn't occurred to you to fix this a waaay long time ago...(apparently some men love the tongue thrust & swirl to the point of dripping...eeewww).
Here's the link if anyone would like to read it themselves: