Sunday, March 31, 2013
"Relish love in our old age! Aged love is like aged wine; it becomes more satisfying, more refreshing, more valuable, more appreciated and more intoxicating!" --Leo Buscaglia
A couple of weekends ago, Xing Fu's dad & stepmother came for a visit from Texas. They are both is their 80's & are in great shape--I hope I'm that well off when I'm that age. But I digress--what struck me the most was how touchy-feely, romantic they were. Maybe it was over-the-top a bit (he knelt to help her put on her shoes at one point), but I was smitten myself at how devoted they seemed to one another. I remarked to Xing Fu about how they were after they left & he agreed. He said that his dad wasn't like that when he was growing up, & wondered if it was the woman who made him a different man or just the time in his life. I guess the romantic in me hopes that it had something to do with the woman--probably because it's his father's second marriage, and it has lasted for quite some time. Of course it is my desire that we might be the same way & that we both have brought out the best in one another. Either way, it was wonderful to see such devotion & visual examples of commitment. And I hope that both my son & Xing Fu's daughters saw what I saw as well--that love can last into older age & be just as romantic as when one is in one's youth. To that end, Xing Fu left me a little note one morning this week as I'm on vaycay from work & he drove my son to school for me. When I sent him an email later that day to thank him he wrote back that he wants "wants to be all lovey-dovey in 30 years like my parents." And I think he's worked towards that as have I--last night I satisfied my bet from last year's NCAA tournament by taking Xing Fu to Woodberry Kitchen for dinner. (Every year we bet on our brackets--loser takes the winner out to a really nice restaurant--I've won only once--boo!). Very romantic of course but nothing too extraordinary except this morning after I'd posted last night on FB the following, "Lovely dinner with Xing Fu at Woodberry Kitchen & the food was pretty awesome too!" His response (very rare as he's hardly ever on FB), "Yes, lovely dinner with a lovely woman. What more could I ask?" I hope we continue like this in 30 years too.