We tend to write this in an email after every weekend we spend together--obviously a very good thing but it brings me to the idea of appreciation. I ran across a little snippet about strengthening your relationship with your significant other. It read:
Get In Your Head
To be happy with your husband, you may have to re-train your brain, says Achor. For 21 days in a row, write down one new thing you're grateful for about your husband. "Research shows that by the end of those three weeks, you will have taught your brain to be more appreciative and loving toward your mate," she says.
We already to this to some degree is what I wrote in an email this morning. Even if Xing Fu tries to drown me, or knock me out with the boom, he does not blow off the little advice blurbs I send him. He treats them with respect & recognizes how much we both work to keep our relationship a strong & healthy one. To that end I certainly appreciate the effort we both put forth--it shows a deep commitment to each other. And we're going to give it a try without being redundant. My first one:I appreciate that you treat these little relationship advice snippets that I find & send seriously & not just "humor" me.
And I wonder, looking at the recent failure of a relationship that an acquaintance of mine had blow up in her face, if we're the lucky ones. Of course, she had it coming--hatred spewing people cannot find others who will find them positive, loving people--if you hate, you will see Karma come right back atcha'--how can you have a loving relationship with anyone when you exude such anger & negativity?
I also like to think that for the most part my friends' relationships & marriages are also ones that show deep appreciation--they seem to--this weekend demonstrated that as we all descended on BFF(J)'s house on the water for an impromptu BBQ--