Sunday, October 4, 2009

Wedding Vows

"I don't mind a drop in." Huh? What?? I'm out with a guy on Saturday night & I think he's a pretty nice guy--& then this statement. I look at him, and I must've looked at him just a bit strangely because he clarifies. He says, "If you just want to come over to see me, you don't need to call, just come on over." Suuuurrrre, yyyyeaaahh, just been on a first date & thinking to myself: "Ok, not too bad, a little quirky, but he has potential." And then he says that. WTF???!!! If he drove by my house without calling that would be the end. If my parents "just drop by" that would be a problem. So, no. Do NOT drop by, do NOT pass go, do NOT collect a realationship with me--I'm a busy woman, living my life--I need to plan your visits. Bleh & double bleh--I felt like the man was already writing our wedding vows the way he'd planned out our lives already. And he was whiney because I couldn't fit him in next week--at all. Not even during the week--I HAVE PLANS--yeesh! Between my sports & another Thursday with SM (this seems to be becoming a regular thing...) & racing on Saturday, & Saturday night out with a friend (yep, a man) to listen to music, & the boat show on Sunday. And NO I do NOT want this guy to go with me & my kid. Dude, I am so not into possessiveness--unless I want it & believe me--not anytime soon with you...

OK--so yet again there are all these men & none are suitable--exhibit A described above, all the way to exhibit B--my sailing friend. Extremes, the lot of 'em. My neighbor, also a single woman, sighed & said at least I have a stable to choose from. My reply was--too bad they're old hacks--they can't make it out of the barn let alone making it out of the gate! My mom throws her 2 cents in--similar to a Sex & the City quote--that as I get older the pickins are slimmer so exhibit A may not be so bad....lord help me--

5 comments:

6p00d8341d75c753ef said...

For what it's worth, based on this account he didn't say he would be dropping by, he gave you the all-clear to drop by.

notthemomma said...

Once again, you would much prefer the kind of guy who would mind a drop in because a) he already has a wife/girlfriend at the house b) he has a psycho ex who stops by for random acts of stalking/booty calls/arson or c) he keeps severed heads in his otherwise perfect wine cellar.
Keep looking, I am sure the wrong guy is out there somewhere!

Incognito said...

I don't know too many people who have not had their share of "wrong" people in their lives (glass houses and all). The thing is to learn from those times and, with the unconditional support of family and friends, move into a better place within yourself so that you will be ready for a partner who speaks your language, whatever flavor that may turn out to be -- Peace. See you Sunday!

Ros said...

Don't listen to your mom!

Incognito said...

What Ros said . . . .