Last year we were brand new & my feet never touched the ground. This year I'm happy to say that even though my feet have found the solid earth, I am still glowing. For Valentine's Day I made reservations at Miss Shirley's which is open usually only for breakfast & lunch but makes an exception for Valentine's. They have a great menu & I thought it would be nice to celebrate there. My BFF(A) & her husband joined us & we had a wonderful dinner. Before dinner Xing Fu brought me a dozen long stemmed red roses--I am a sucker for roses--actually usually any flowers, but these were quite beautiful. No stuffed animals in sight. I had painted him a little picture of some sailboats which I gave to him & had pasted a copy of e.e. cumming's poem entitled "yes is a pleasant country". That poem has always meant a lot to me--pretty sure I've posted it on the blog too. It was a wonderful evening--we are lucky.
Today I came across the following article: http://lifestyle.msn.com/relationships/article.aspx?cp-documentid=25751528>1=32092 How Do You Know When You're In Love. I really liked what it had to say (not just about being married--again, this applies to LTRs as well) & reminded me of how I often think about Xing Fu in that way. The downside from the article: I don't ever want to get to the point where I only tolerate him...if that ever happens, it will be time for us to part ways. I honestly can't think of when that will happen and that is a good thing. But I was struck by what the author had to say about the Scottish couple he stayed with--how long they'd been in love & the seemingly "little things" that kept them connected. Saying goodbye for example--that longing, however small, to be with the one you love. Or wanting the person you are with to be happy--seeing their joy & it then being wrapped up in your own sense of well-being & happiness. Being in the presence of the love of others & appreciating that.
It truly was a weekend & Valentine's Day for the record books--been a long time coming.
"You don't know. And I don't know. You have to look for yourself. Measure carefully and you'll almost always be right."