Tuesday, March 3, 2009

The Break-Up Times Two

Carrie: You can have the guts and the courtesy to tell a woman to her face that you no longer want to see her. Call me crazy, but I think you can make a point of ending your relationship in a manner that does not include an email, a doorman or a missing persons report. I think you could all get over your fear of looking like the bad guy and actually have the uncomfortable break-up conversation because here's what avoiding that is what makes you the bad guy

Carrie: Oh uh, Berger broke up with me on a post-it.
Miranda: On a post-it?
Carrie: Uh huh. Uh huh. Yep. Read it and weep my friends.
Samantha: (Reading the post-it) "I'm sorry, I can't. Don't hate me." The motherfucker's consise.

From: Sex & The City

After another great weekend.....

So here it goes again--I am the bad guy. Somehow this is all my fault. Being broken up with by text message and an angry, self-righteous phone call is about the same as a post-it. But apparently it is justified because I've "ruined his life." Actually I've exposed him for the lying, cheating prick that he is. He played us--both of us--and there is a real aspect of cruelty about this whole situation. He claimed that he had broken up with her but he hadn't. He never told her about me & she found out by reading this very blog...and somehow I'm the bad guy--How dare me!!! She has thanked me for having this blog because even though she is hurting at least as much as I am, she now sees the Bull in truth--if that is even possible with him. I told him via email that it was Karma--and what goes around comes around...he didn't like that too much & told me never to contact him again....

I can't even begin to put into words just how angry & hurt I am. And how stoopid I feel that he led me on for this long. I thought we had something special & wonderful. How fucked up was that! He has been maintaining this elaborate lie for months & involving children too! All of our children were involved & had relationships with him & his son. How irresponsible! And he thinks this blog was irresponsible?? I never said names or indicated anything too specific but apparently the Bull's big mouth really got him in trouble. He told the other poor, duped woman about all the activities we did but he claimed it was with his mother, or friends, etc. Instead all the activites were with me. She quoted my blog back to him & he has the unmidigated gall to say this is my fault! Motherfucker indeed! More later. CFW said she'd cut off his dick for me...maybe I'll let her.


Ros said...

OMG. I KNEW he was fighting back like a cornered animal. More precisely, like a trapped weasel. Did you know there are "does this man cheat?" websites where you really COULD put his business out there.

Incognito said...

Sounds to me like he has sociopathic tendencies--check out www.lovefraud.com

Sorry to hear you are going through this; it is heartbreaking for you. Very similar to an experience I had; they are very smooth talkers, say all the right things, have answers for everything, and make you feel like you're going crazy when you question them.

When it seems they're too good to be true, they usually are. Good luck in your healing.

Anonymous said...

The part that kills me about all this is how it's your fault, especially since he KNEW that you were putting this out there, and that he'd been reading it himself. Ah well, they don't catch the smart ones.