I went to a great party with my sailing friends yesterday--had a super time but had to go it alone. That isn't necessarily a problem, in fact there are two sides to the alone vs. the coupled party. First I needed to get through all of the questions: "Where's Xing Fu?" That took about the first half hour of the party--explaining to all why he wasn't there. Not a bad thing--this was actually the second party I've been to without him and with our sailing friends. And even though I'd have preferred him to be there with me, I think there were some advantages to being there alone. So a little comparison:
With Xing Fu, we'd have been there as a couple & probably interacted more like that with everyone else & certainly we'd have been more into one another. That is very nice of course, but I think one on one conversations would've been far less & the real stories may not have made it to my ears. Also the physical interplay with others would've most definitely been less. You know, the touchy-feely guys, seeing Xing Fu with me would equal no touchie. And yeah, some of it is ok, but as people get stupider drunk, then of course the inhibitions lessen. I did very little drinking & mostly stuck to water because I had to drive back up to Baltimore. I think if Xing Fu was there, I probably would've indulged more. So score for having him there--both being able to have less attention paid to my physical person & that I may have imbibed a bit more & been fine. Plus the comfort of his presence & not having to walk around for the first half hour answering questions.
Without him was also very interesting--I learned a lot about stuff (drama stories--always fun). Got to meet a ton of folk & had intimate conversations that probably wouldn't have happened. In fact, may have found a great guy to do my hair who happens to live up here in Baltimore. As I said before--much more of a hands-on evening--and of course the last folk left at the end of a very late night were the sailors. Again, I think being alone allowed some people there to be more relaxed with me & I enjoyed that quite a bit. So which do I prefer? Ultimately I like to share the party experience with Xing Fu but it was fine without him too. Good that I enjoy both ways. Even better was seeing everyone--spent so much time with them over the summer--I miss them since we aren't spending most of our Wednesdays & weekends together anymore. Love you guys!!!